| A positive trend becoming noticeable in | | | | this if your marriage is important to you and |
| marriage counseling and therapy is that more | | | | you want to try and save it. You need the |
| couples are going in for counseling before | | | | best marriage counselor or therapist to help |
| seeking a divorce. However, there are more | | | | you. If he thinks asking questions is his |
| useless and incompetent marriage counselors | | | | monopoly then it's wise to look elsewhere. |
| and marriage therapists than ever. So it's | | | | |
| best to check out and look for the best | | | | Some things you want to ask questions about |
| marriage counselor or therapist before you go | | | | are the marriage counselor's credentials and |
| into marriage counseling or marriage therapy. | | | | background. Ask about his or her attitude |
| | | | toward helping salvage relationships as |
| One mistake people make when entering | | | | opposed to helping dissolve them. A marriage |
| marriage counseling is in going to a general | | | | therapist or counselor who comes down too |
| psychological therapist whose practice isn't | | | | strictly on either side of the question is |
| predominately marriage counseling. What | | | | probably not a good choice. You want someone |
| happens many times is that a person enters | | | | neutral, if possible, and you definitely |
| individual counseling and then brings their | | | | don't want a marriage therapist who tells you |
| mate in for marriage counseling or therapy. | | | | he or she doesn't believe in divorce. |
| Therapists who focus primarily on individual | | | | Hopefully, that won't happen to your |
| therapy don't, as a rule, make good marriage | | | | marriage, but if it does, you want a marriage |
| counselors or marriage therapists. That's | | | | counselor who will help both of you through |
| because individual therapy is vastly | | | | making the decision and any transition that's |
| different from marriage therapy, and so it's | | | | necessary. |
| a good idea to select a therapist or | | | | |
| counselor whose primary focus is in on | | | | At any point during the meeting with marriage |
| marriage counseling. | | | | counselor you sense biasness or unfairness, |
| | | | simply change the therapist. Marriage |
| Also, you should never bring a partner into | | | | counselor's main aim is to give equal support |
| marriage counseling with a therapist who has | | | | and attention to both the partners. He or she |
| been helping you because this gives a | | | | should be objective enough to highlight your |
| lopsided view of the situation to the | | | | problems and issues without making you feel |
| therapist who has already formed an opinion. | | | | "right" or "wrong". Quite often you tend to |
| It's always best to seek a marriage counselor | | | | feel that therapist is pointing at you again |
| who is unknown to both of you so that he is | | | | and again which can't be comfortable always. |
| more open to hearing and evaluating both | | | | If you judge that it's you who is left alone |
| sides of the marriage story without any | | | | and not heard frequently then it is sensible |
| biases. | | | | to look out for another marriage counselor. |
| | | | It is not good to be pointed out as a bad guy |
| Always have a phone interview with a marriage | | | | or girl always. The worse thing that can |
| counselor or marriage therapist before making | | | | happen to your bad marriage is a bad marriage |
| an appointment. Alternatively, use the first | | | | therapist. |
| appointment to ask questions. You need to do | | | | |